Thursday, April 20, 2017

March 2017 - Understanding the Complexity of Sex Trafficking



Diane Gordon from Present Age Ministries shared insight into Sex Trafficking.
 
Diane started out with some really tough statistics:

  • ·         The Average Age of girls involved in sex trafficking is 12-14 years old
  • ·         The life expectancy of those girls once they are involved is only 7 years, many succumb to suicide and drugs
  • ·         Less than 2% of those involved are rescued, there is an estimated 100-300K victims in the US

Many girls are abused and then forced into sex trafficking, some are lured in through social media and then they are coerced into sex trafficking.  These men find the ‘gap’ in the girls life and fill it under false promises.  Charlotte is the number one city in NC for sex trafficking and in the top 7 in the country.  Our interstates make it easy for the predators to move about.
Diane also shared what we can look for to help identify girls in need:

  • ·         Older man with a younger woman
  • ·         He’s speaking for her
  • ·         She doesn’t know where she is or where she is going
  • ·         She doesn’t know what day it is
  • ·         She has no personal belongings like a purse or cell phone

Present Age Ministries helps these girls in need.  They have a holistic approach to helping and assess the needs of the girls in the following agreas:

  • ·         Medical
  • ·         Emotional & Psychological
  • ·         Educational
  • ·         Relational
  • ·         Spiritual

The is also a national hotline to report concerns or get help – Human Trafficking Resource Center           1-888-373-7888

Present Age Ministries can be contacted at www.PresentAgeMinistries.org

Tuesday, February 28, 2017

February 7th, 2017 Better Sleep part 2



Feb 7th
Our Feb 7th meeting was an continuation of a meeting from last year.  It featured Kristin Daley, Ph.D. of Southeast Psych.  She started her career working in sleep medicine, and has worked in sleep medicine while completing her masters and her doctorate. She is one of approximately 200 psychologists who have completed certification in behavioral sleep medicine, and is trained to work with sleep disorders across the age spectrum.  
Kristin took us through all the factors in sleep.  Everyone wants to know what is their magic sleep number. 
Each person has their own ‘metabolism’ for sleep.  Sleep medicine professionals believe the average adult needs 7 hours of sleep but the national sleep foundation believes average adults need 7-8 hours.  Each person is different and there are some that only need 5 hours of sleep.  How do you determine how much you need – track how long you are sleeping over a 2 week period and determine the average.  You don’t have to get too detailed, you can just log what time you go to bed and what time you get out.  Age, gender, activity level all have impact on sleep and the ability to sleep.  You want to match the bed time to the sleep time, so that you have very little time in bed when you are not asleep. 

Our body works on a clock system – circadian rhythms and the brain waves while you sleep are a big symphony.  During the slow waves your brain is actually cleaning itself, this happens the first third of your sleep time.  The brain is flooded with spinal fluid which is critical to brain health.  There is a belief that reduced slow wave time has a direct correlation with dementia.
The middle third of the night your brain waves look like when your eyes are open and you are awake.  This is the time you dream and process emotions.  This is where memories are made permanent, you expunge unnecessary information and where you work through emotions, including trauma. 
To ensure your body clock stays on schedule you want to ensure your bedtime and wake up time stay consistent.  Everyday you should be going to bed around the same hour +/- 1 hour and same for waking up. 
Kristen also shared details on what we can do during the day to ensure a good night sleep:

  • Dark room – light impacts sleep, use a flashlight if you have to get up to go to the restroom, NOT night lights. 
  • Cool room
  • You need 30 mins every day of unfiltered sunlight to produce serotonin as serotonin turns into melatonin, so if you lack in serotonin you will lack in melatonin.  She recommends being outside without sunglasses before 11am or after 3pm, for a total of 30 minutes. 
  •  Do not use anything with a backlight 2 hours before bed – including your iphone, computer, tablets and newer Kindles.
  • Read a paper book or an old fashion Kindle
  • Short burst of cardio during the day will aide in sleeping due to the release of dopamine and reduce cortisol levels.  You need about 4-5 total minutes of heart pumping cardio – goes back to Caveman days when we encountered fight or flight every day. 
  • If you are going to exercise at night do it about 2 hours before bed
  • If you take a nap do it for NO longer than 30 mins, it draws away from your sleep at night
  • Even teenagers need to go to bed and wake up about the same time everyday – you can allow them short naps but keeping them on schedule will only improve their ability to stay focused throughout the day
  • The temperature in your room needs to be between 65-67 degrees, you can be bundled up from your neck to your toes but the key is to keep your head cool. 
Another key is food consumption.  You need carbohydrates but not too close to bedtime.  You need about 30 total grams of carbs during the day, but having carbs too close to bedtime will impact your sleep, this includes beer and wine.
Another item to ensure a good night sleep is ensuring you feel safe.  Your brain will not let you sleep unless you are feeling safe.  Your brain defines safety by the following:
1.      Consistent sound (this is a safe place) utilizing white noise is recommended. 
2.      Feel of the bed, checking sheets and blankets is your brain checking in
3.      Smell – smelling something familiar, however a specific scent will not help you sleep, however your pillow which smells like you will
Kristen recommended that you have to be friends with everything in your head.  You need your brain to not be in fear and key up the rest of your body to fight off ‘predators’  To help clear your head she recommends a bullet diary, bullet points to drain out the ‘ambiguity’ bucket. 
She reminded us to never look at a clock, your bedroom needs to be a place where it is okay to be out of control.  Natural sleep is better than sleep by medicine. 
Women and men have different sleep needs  and you have to find your rhythm. 
These same guidelines should be used for children, including babies.  Set up their rooms without night light.  She recommended the Cloud B sleep turtle or lady bug.  You can also put a night light on a timer to help with when it is okay for children to get out of bed.
Please also refer back to our notes from the previous meeting on April 12, 2016.